Wednesday, November 20, 2013

The Ask

Photo by Victor Bezrukov
I'm having a hard time.  

I'm having a hard time with "The Ask".  I guess I should start by telling you what it is.  The Ask is a request for help.

I've never been good with The Ask.  I don't know when this started, to be honest.  I've been the shoulder, the support, the pillar, the strong one for as long as I can remember.  People lean on me.  I've come to define myself that way.  

The Ask has represented weakness to me.  Maybe it is something that I've told myself in order to mask the real issue behind it.  It's fear.

Fear of possibly being rejected.
Fear of being let down.
Fear of depending on someone else.
Fear that I will appear weak.
All around fear.

This is something that has been coming up for me lately.  I'm loosening the reigns of control and coming to terms with the fact that I am not Wonder Woman.  I can't do everything.  I can't be everything to everyone else and shoulder my stuff too.  

I am learning to say no.  I'm learning to put me first.  I'm learning to get comfortable with The Ask.  It's been difficult for me, but it's necessary.

One of the biggest lessons that I've learned with this blog is that by shining a light on an issue, I find that I am not alone.  You guys have such great advice and suggestions.  I feel a genuine connection with all of you and it means a lot to me.

Lights, Camera, Action
How do you feel about The Ask?  Have you struggled with it?  How have you worked through it?  As always, your responses are very helpful to the community, so please feel free to share in the comments below.  I look forward to reading your responses.

Photo credit lurve: Photo by Victor Bezrukov

1 comment:

  1. I can relate 100%. I have the fear of judgment and fear of rejection. But it is so worth it to have relationships strengthened by allowing people to be there for you the opportunity to do so. Also if people rejected you it is painful but it is good to know where you stand with them.

    I hope you know you will receive no judgements from me if you need anything. I'd always try my best to do what you need.